Love hurts

Russ,

So this letter is a long time in the making. I thought I could actually work through this but I can't. When do you finally say enough is enough, for me it was when I came back from Denver and the only thing you asked me about was about the chorus that you were specifically interested in you didn't ask anything else not how my trip was good I need anybody, but I have fun, was there a lot of emotional stuff, did you miss me. It was apparent that you couldn't be bothered to ask about any of my trip. Your lack of ability to show any interest for any aspect of my life has left me really wanting more. You know it's time to quit when a perfect stranger tells me more of how awesome of a person I am than you do. I've asked through the years for what I wanted and what I needed but it seems like it's falling on deaf ears. I just have to think that I am so worth getting my basic needs met and to tell you the truth I don't feel worth were at the end of any of it when I'm with you it takes my tricks telling me how handsome I am how special I am how great of a great of a person I am how I have a great smile and a package and body and I'm great in bed and I'm awesome kisser and to make me realize that I'm in the wrong relationship. Russ I am 44 years old and I refuse to be in this relationship one more moment like it is now I know now you are in capable of fulfilling even the basics in a relationship such as communication sacks giving compliments etc. I just don't get it I've stayed around thinking that it would get better or I would just grow into it but going to Denver made me realize I am to hold Lee selling myself short being with you I'm settling again and I'm too old to settle and I'm too young not to find that amazing man that will make me feel like I am at the center of their universe that I'm amazing and will make me feel like I'm the sexiest man alive even though I'm not. Who will genuinely tell me they love me and then show what I realize I have a big part in this and I apologize for not being all you want me to be so this is why am writing this to you now the more time that we waste with each other the more time with you take away from finding that person that will do it for us Russ I have prolong this decision because as soon as I give you this letter my life is to last it we got a change and I have not wanted to change but the longer I wait the more and happy Idk at Ross I I do love you, but I love myself more. It is not fair you or I keep going if this letter comes to you as a surprise I'm sorry. I think through the years I I've made it known that I needed change I've needed something different than what we have, we've talked and talked and talked and I tell you, I need more but I'm tired of having to ask for your approval and affection I don't want to have to ask you to ask me what is going on in my life. I really want to feel like a man that I that I love really is interested in my life and I don't feel any of that with you so I'm sorry to say I don't want to be in a relationship with you like this anymore in the back of my mind I truly hope that you read this in change but I honestly know, you will read this and you won't want to change at all so I am changing Russ I need you know that I'm not angry and and I don't mean this letter in in in anger or hatred or in dislike or in malice or any negative stuff I just want to be honest with you and I'm very sad and upset that I don't matter enough that you should really you want to listen and and know that I'm happy and want to change and take interest in my life. I do love you and I guess we really need to talk about what's next I haven't secured a place to live yet but I'm working on it. I wanted to talk to you about the truck me about maybe buying it or or maybe you could just give it to me if not it's really not your problem. I wanted to give this to you ASAP see you at had a chance to change the cruise thing. Which I understand we canceled now. I honestly don't know how you're going to react but I am really sorry I really wish it was working I never been with someone for so long ever. I want you know that I I really wanted to say thank you for sticking through the 13 months of my using with me and all of the things we did do I appreciate every one of those you are a great cook your great TV watcher I'm a buddy you're a great artist known I do know that you love me and I do know that you do care for me I just I just don't think you're able to give me the things I need and I think that you're comfortable where you're at right now. Russ I just want you to know that I do love you.

Talk about being "Hand Held"... LoL

Wow... I wish I could be in that position

How much Privacy do you think you really have..

My friend and I were chatting online the other day and he said something about my truck being a different color that he thought is was grey not white and then he asked me why my truck's back tires were blocked with pieces of wood. I didn't even think about it, I told him that is was probably because I was working on it and what picture was he looking at? He stated that it was probably an old one from Facebook that he had seen of a darker grey truck, i kew he was looking at when I was fixing my truck, I had taken the dash out and it was a grey color. Nowit really did not hit home until after a short bit he asked me if I was interested in how he knew it was on blocks in my driveway? I stated I would be interested buyt by the time he had statred saying it I already knew...Google Maps..Street View...I was on my way to looking at it when he asked me if I had used the prog befiore, I use it very often to find my way around place and it is a very good tool.

My friend stated that he could not understand why my Liscense plate # was blurred out, and I said that it was probably for privacy matters or laws put in place my the government or by google to ensure as much privacy as possible and in perfect Herrick fashion  he sends me this response:

                   (NAMES, DATES, & DOLLAR AMOUNTS HAVE BEEN CHANGED)

Names, addresses and phone numbers that are published in phone directories are sold in bulk to companies that resell the information over the internet.

Deeds showing transfers of title to real property (e.g., grant deeds, quit claim deeds, trust deeds, reconveyances, etc.) are recorded in the public records of the county where the property is located and indexed under the names to the grantor and grantee. These public records show the date of transfer of title, property address and name of the new owner.

States keep public "vital registry" records with your birth name, birth date, birth place, names of your parents, marriages, divorces, death, etc. 

States and counties sell this public info in bulk to companies that resell it over the internet. By joining your name and birthdate from the public vital records registry to your name and address from phone books, assessor's property tax roles or recorded real property deeds, these companies attempt to match your name and address and sell them over the intenet.

It's all legal because the information being sold comes from public sources.

Whenever you join almost any an internet service, e.g., FB, the company that provides the service sells links to your profile data, posts, photos, etc. to internet search engine services, such as Yahoo and Google.

Google updates it's maps from satellite data it buys from the companies that own or lease the satellites.  

In your FB, you make no secret of your name and that you live in San Diego with Eddy. From that little bit of info, anyone can search San Diego County's public records to determine your street address. This can be done in person (for free), by mail (for a fee), or over the internet (for free).

The county's internet service holds real property deeds recorded since 1982: http://arcc.co.san-diego.ca.us/services/grantorgrantee/search.aspx

From a quick search of the county's free, public internet databases, I found the following the real property document summaries:

http://arcc.co.san-diego.ca.us/arcc/services/grantorgrantee/search.aspx?SearchName=(Eddy Boroski)

Eddy is the owner of record of (123 Brooks Ave), He got title from Gaven on (2022). Possibly by quit claim. Can't tell without examing the deed.

Based on the current assessed value of ($100,000), the transfer value on (2023)must have been around ($000,000)

An entry for a trust deed recorded in (2022) from (John) to (Bank of Idaho) indicates (Eddy) did a re-fi in (1824).

The assessed value is ($100,000). Eddy's property tax bill is ($4,000), with the 1st installment is due (1899)

If you buy a house, the only way to keep your name out of the public records is to take title in another name, such as a corporate entity. The catch is that if you need to borrow to buy the house, then unless the corporation can show sufficient income of it's own, the lender is almost certainly going to require you to borrow in your own name and take title in your own name. 


And I assume that was with very little effort on my friends part, now as creepy as that is he has a valid point, with just a click and a little research you can find just about anything on anyone if you just go on the web.

My advice to all whom think that they are safe from prying eyes, think again...anytime you register on a site or create a user name on a site or put any info on a site for that matter , just think twice whether your infomation is truyly safe.

Integrity

The reason I am writing this is to share my experience about a situation that could have turned really bad. I am a 44 year old man who has been HIV+ since 1996 and in all that time I have been really diligent about telling my sexual parters about my status. About a month ago I met a beautiful guy on Grindr, a hook up site. We started talking and flirting at first it was very harmless, talking about getting together for coffee. Now I was on this site for one thing and that was to hook up and have sex. This guy made it very clear that he only wanted to get together for coffee and I agreed, I thought it might be nice to meet someone and just chat to see where it went. We met for coffee and it was very clear from the very beginning that this was going to be more then just coffee, so I pursued this course. In our conversations we talked about barebacking. We talked about a lot of things and the conversation kept going towards us getting together and him fucking me, I told him that I love getting fucked bareback and he said he liked that too and how nice it would be to fuck me and cum inside me. So after coffee I walked him back to his car and we decided that I would come over and we would PLAY. From the moment I stepped in the door the air was sexually charged. We went up to his room and started kissing, before we knew it we were naked and he was inside me, he fucked me for some time, now I never even thought to tell him I was HIV + because of all the flirting and talk about him wanting to Bareback me and he loved to bareback, I assumed he was positive. I have never met a guy before in all my hook ups that was negative that did not disclose this when chatting about barebacking. I also before this point would have disclosed my status, I am not sure why it never came about. Now this guy is the first guy in all those hookups that I did not talk about it. I always made a point in the past of telling the guy my status because I would NEVER want to give this to anyone. Any way we finished up and it was amazing. As I stepped out of the shower we chatted about what transpired and I mentioned taking meds and asked what regiment he was on, surprised he said Im not on meds and I asked why he was not on meds and when did he become positive? There was a long pause and he said Im NOT positive, a sinking feeling came over me and I said that I was. So without a beat I told him we need to go to the clinikc and he needed too get on an exposure treatment. well we did and after all of that he tested negative for the virus, and with great relief I vowed never to let that happen again, and to this day I have made good on that ........Whew! 

Quotes from Voltaire

Voltaire

Every man is guilty of all the good he did not do.

I cannot imagine how the clockwork of the universe can exist without a clockmaker.

Not a day goes by without our using the word optimism, coined by Voltaire against Leibniz, who had demonstrated (in spite of the Ecclesiastes and with the approval of the Church) that we live in the best of possible worlds. Voltaire, very reasonably, denied that exorbitant opinion... Leibniz could have replied that a world which has given us Voltaire has some right to be considered the best.

Jorge Luis Borges, Obra completa, Vol. IV, p. 523

Definitions & Dimensions of Wellness

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Physical Wellness

The physical dimension of wellness encourages cardiovascular flexibility and strength and also encourages regular, physical activity. Physical development encourages knowledge about food and nutrition and discourages the use of tobacco, drugs and excessive alcohol consumption. Physical Wellness encourages consumption and activities which contribute to high level wellness, including medical self-care and appropriate use of the medical system.

  

As you travel the physical wellness path, you'll strive to spend more time each week building endurance, flexibility and physical strength. Sometimes the path may become narrow and treacherous-you'll become more aware of the hazards around you and you'll begin to take safety precautions so you may travel your path successfully. The physical dimension of wellness entails taking responsibility and care for minor illnesses and also knowing when professional medical attention is needed.

 

By traveling the wellness path, physically, you'll be able to monitor your own vital signs and understand your body's warning signs. You'll understand and appreciate the relationship between sound nutrition and how your body performs. The physical dimension of wellness provides almost immediate beneficial results-both physical and psychological. The physical benefits of looking good and feeling terrific most often lead to the psychological benefits of enhanced self-esteem, self control determination and a sense of direction.

• As you travel the wellness path, you'll begin to believe that - physically.  
• It's better to consume foods and beverages that enhance good health rather than those which impair it.
• It's better to be physically fit than out of shape. 

Steps For Improving Physical Wellness / Physical Fitness

 

Physical wellness is the ability to apply your knowledge, motivation, commitment, behavior, self management, attitude, and skills toward achieving your personal fitness and health goals. A wise person once said, "Those who think they have no time for exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness." Physical wellness can be maintained by applying the knowledge and skills of sound nutrition, exercise, and safety to everyday life.

• Exercise three time a week, 20-30 minutes per session
• Use the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator, and walk whenever possible
• Get consistent and adequate sleep
• Use seat belts and helmets, and encourage others to do so
• Learn to recognize early signs of illness
• Listen to your body
• Practice safe sex
• Eat breakfast - it's the most important meal of the day
• Eat a variety of healthy foods
• Stop smoking and protect yourself against second-hand smoke
• Control your meal portions and try to eat smaller, more frequent meals throughout the day
• Use sugar, salt, fat, and alcohol in moderation

 

Physical Wellness Assessment

 

The physical dimension of wellness involves encouraging regular activities that produce endurance, flexibility and strength. Read each statement carefully and respond honestly by using the following scoring:

Almost always = 2 points Sometimes/occasionally = 1 point Very seldom = 0 points

_____ 1. I exercise aerobically (vigorous, continuous) for 20 to 30 minutes at least three times per
              week.
_____ 2. I eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains every day.

_____ 3. I avoid tobacco products.

_____ 4. I wear a seat belt while riding in and driving a car.

_____ 5. I deliberately minimize my intake of cholesterol, dietary fats, and oils.

_____ 6. I avoid drinking alcoholic beverages or I consume no more than one drink per day.

_____ 7. I get an adequate amount of sleep.

_____ 8. I have adequate coping mechanisms for dealing with stress.

_____ 9. I maintain a regular schedule of immunizations, physicals, dental checkups and self-exams.

_____ 10. I maintain a reasonable weight, avoiding extremes of overweight and underweight.

_______ Total for Physical Wellness Dimension

 

Score: 15 to 20 Points - Excellent strength in this dimension.

Score: 9 to 14 Points - There is room for improvement. Look again at the items in which you scored 1 or 0. What changes can you make to improve your score?

Score: 0 to 8 Points - This dimension needs a lot of work. Look again at this dimension and challenge yourself to begin making small steps toward growth here. Remember: The goal is balanced wellness.

 

 

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 All of this information in this blogg comes from the website----http://www.definitionofwellness.com

SMART Goals

SMART Goals

By Duncan Haughey, PMP

Once you have planned your project, turn your attention to developing several goals that will enable you to be successful. Goals should be SMART - specific, measurable, agreed upon, realistic and time-based.

A goal might be to hold a weekly project meeting with the key members of your team or to organize and run a continuous test program throughout the project.

The acronym SMART has a number of slightly different variations, which can be used to provide a more comprehensive definition for goal setting:

S - specific, significant, stretching

M - measurable, meaningful, motivational

A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented

R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented

T - time-based, timely, tangible, trackable

This provides a broader definition that will help you to be successful in both your business and personal life.

When you next run a project take a moment to consider whether your goals are SMART goals.

To quote renowned American philanthropist Elbert Hubbard:

"Many people fail in life, not for lack of ability or brains or even courage, but simply because they have never organized their energies around a goal."